Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of relationships, everyone lamented how difficult it is to find a partner these days. Especially for men, who often feel they can't quite grasp what women are thinking. Sometimes, they feel the other person is interested, only to be handed a "nice guy" card upon confessing their feelings. Honestly, I used to fall into these traps too, until I gradually figured out some strategies. Today, I’d like to share my insights with you.

First of all, you can't always take what a girl says at face value. Take the classic line, "I'm fine," for example. I'm sure many guys have heard this one. On the surface, everything seems calm, but underneath, there might be a storm brewing. A friend of mine fell for this once; his girlfriend said she was fine, and he took her word for it, only to receive a breakup text the next day. It turned out she had a rough day at work and wanted to vent, but he completely missed the cue.

Then there's the line, "You're great, but we're not a good match." This one hits like a nuclear bomb. I know a guy who chased a girl for over half a year. She always agreed to go out with him, and their conversations were pleasant, but when he finally confessed, he got hit with this line and was completely stunned. In such cases, it's often that the girl sees you as a backup or thinks you're nice but just doesn't feel the spark.

When it comes to finding a partner, I believe the most important thing is to take the initiative. Many guys feel they're not good enough and hesitate to pursue women, but that's unnecessary. I have a friend who's average-looking and earns a modest income, but he's great at conversation and always makes girls laugh. When he was pursuing his girlfriend, he would come up with interesting topics every day, like sharing funny short videos or discussing things the girl was interested in. Gradually, she developed feelings for him.

Additionally, showing vulnerability at the right times is crucial. Many guys think they need to appear super strong to attract women, but that's not the case. A colleague of mine is very competent at work, but when he was pursuing his girlfriend, he would ask for advice on things he actually knew, like how to choose lipstick or match clothes. This made the girl feel needed and increased their interaction.

Lastly, it's important not to rush things. I've seen too many guys who, after just a few days of knowing a girl, rush to confess their feelings and end up scaring her away. Relationships need time to develop, like planting a flower—you need to water and fertilize it, and wait patiently. My current girlfriend and I knew each other for over half a year before we got together. During that time, we went to many places and shared many stories, and gradually, feelings developed.

I see comments saying, "I understand all this, but I just can't do it!" Honestly, everyone has their own pace, and there's no need to rush. What's important is to stay genuine and be your true self. After all, someone who truly likes you will appreciate the real you.

I hope these tips can help those struggling to find love. Remember, love isn't a competition; it's a journey where both parties move towards each other. Wishing everyone finds their own happiness!