When you first start chasing a girl, chatting is a crucial step, because only by having a good chat and making the girl feel good can you go on a date. So how can you chat with a girl to quickly build a good impression?
How can you quickly build a good impression by chatting with a girl?
1. Establish a sense of consensus
First of all, we must make a statement: Never be a "chat-chat type" Spare tire".
In other words, even if you take the initiative to pursue a girl, you are not obliged to respond to her 24 hours a day, nor do you have to be completely obedient and follow the girl's wishes in everything.
To be honest, people often like to have a pug that "hangs around them", but this is a good impression brought about by status differences, not a good impression in a normal relationship.
Establishing a sense of consensus is actually one of the ways to attract girls’ interest in chatting and establish an equal relationship for the first time.
So after adding this girl, don’t rush to chat, but use her avatar, friend circle, message board, personalized signature, Weibo, QQ Music, and even food delivery software and many other social channels. , to understand girls’ interests, hobbies, daily values ????and things they reject.
2. Make up for the sense of need
All male compatriots must remember this step, in the hearts of girls , whether you are a straight male backup or an "intimate and warm man who understands her" often depends on this step.
In psychology, I often quote a sentence:
"When will you have a lasting liking for a person?" In fact, it does not come from a person's appearance. The sense of worthiness comes from whether this person can meet your emotional needs inadvertently.
3. Create an ambiguous atmosphere
Why do you become a girl's "boy" while chatting? Best friend"?
In fact, it’s not that girls don’t like you, but that you missed the key “window period” time and time again during the chat.
If you chat with her every day, but don’t know how to make an appointment with a girl to consolidate the relationship, then the girl will naturally feel that “this boy has not made any move for a long time, and he doesn’t really want to be friends with me.” When a girl Once the expectations for your love are over, you will really become an "iron" best friend
From a psychological point of view, people's emotional cycles are generally 28 days, and one of them has The interest of a person you like usually peaks around 14 days.
In other words, if you have a hot conversation with a girl and you haven’t taken the initiative to escalate the relationship after 14 days of chatting, the girl’s favorable impression of you will decrease.Gradually fall back.
When you have been chatting for more than 28 days and still haven’t taken the initiative to upgrade the relationship, then your identity is probably beginning to move closer to that of a friend.
Remember: chatting is not your way to pursue girls. Taking the initiative to invite and create an ambiguous atmosphere is the way to upgrade your relationship.
