If you like someone, you must boldly confess to her. Otherwise, by the time you want to confess to her, she may have become someone else's baby. Only then will you regret why you didn't confess to her earlier.
Many people ask me why I am rejected directly when I confess my love to the person I like?
After getting to know each other, I discovered that they all have a common problem, that is, the relationship with the other party has not yet reached the stage of confession. Maybe the other person also likes you and wants to develop further with you, but some people take relationships very seriously. When both parties don't know each other well, if you express your feelings directly, the other party will think that you don't take your feelings seriously. Serious, thus rejecting you directly. The relationship that might have developed further has also ruined the possibility of further development because of the too direct confession. Xiaobei and I met one night. Xiaobei came to me for consultation and told me that he confessed to the person he liked but was rejected. He asked me what to do.
Because I have so many years of consulting experience, I felt that things were not that simple, so I asked him some questions.
Xiao Bei said that he had known her for three months and had been chatting happily. He felt that she had a good impression of him and he also liked her better, so he confessed to her, but he did not expect to be rejected.
I read their chat records and understood the ins and outs, and found that the girl also had a crush on Xiaobei, but that girl was very serious about relationships, so I always wanted to know about Xiaobei's interests and hobbies. Personality and temper. Xiaobei felt that she also had a crush on him, so the topic of conversation was rather ambiguous, and he felt that he needed to confess that he liked each other. As you can imagine, she rejected him outright.
Judging from their chat records, the girl’s requirements for her future partner were to complement each other in interests, hobbies, personality and temperament, so she repeatedly asked Xiaobei to get to know her, and Xiaobei was immersed in her. In an excited state where he also has a good impression of himself, he keeps saying ambiguous words. As a result, the girl felt that Xiaobei just wanted to play with her and had no plans for long-term development, so she rejected him.
After Xiaobei finished chatting with me, he asked me what to do. I told him that the girl also had a good impression of you and wanted to further develop a relationship with you, but your behavior made her feel Very disappointed, I gave Xiaobei some suggestions.
I told him, first of all, apologize to the girl, and then talk to her about some basic social topics, and then slowly talk about her interests and hobbies, and show that he cares about her. Follow her topic and express some of your own opinions. Then if the other person wants to know something about you, tell her frankly and don't post ambiguous topics.
Xiao Bei had some doubts after hearing this. I told him that if you chat with her like this for a month, she will definitely have a good impression of you.
Actually, only half a month later, Xiaobei came to me again and said that we had a very good chat with her, and we both got to know each other’s personality and temperament, and we made the conversation more interesting.Tian Jiu was sent to me for analysis. After reading it, I found that they are indeed chatting more happily now, and Xiaobei has not sent any more ambiguous topics to her, and saying good morning and good night every day has become a must every day. Few greetings. So I told Xiaobei to ask her to meet directly.
After hearing this, Xiaobei felt very confused and felt that the girl would not agree. I told him what to say, and as expected, the girl agreed to the meeting.
Xiaobei was very excited and asked me what to do. I told him, first of all, don’t act too nervous, act casually, girls pay most attention to some details, pay attention to the details, for example When taking a walk, let her go inside and protect her. For example, as you talked about before, she likes sweets. When eating, order some of her favorite foods. If there are no sweets in the restaurant, you can go outside and buy some for her. Girls Pay the most attention to details. You must pay attention to details and give her enough care and love.
Two days later, Xiaobei told me that he and the girl were already together. He didn’t confess his feelings to her, and they just got together naturally. This is also expected, because sometimes what a girl needs is not a confession or sweet words, but actions to express sufficient care and care for her.
Of course, there are many consulting cases. I would also like to tell these boys who want to express their love. Don’t express your love easily when the relationship has not reached a very close level. As long as you treat the girl enough If you are sincere and caring enough, you don't need to express your feelings, the relationship will develop further, and the relationship will slowly heat up, and finally they will come together naturally.
