The biggest fear when chatting with girls is running out of topics and starting awkward conversations. This will not only fail to upgrade the relationship, but will even make girls feel disgusted. So how do you find topics to talk to girls without making it awkward?
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1. Learn to answer questions and give feedback
Many straight men and girls have no topic when chatting, because they do not use good topics. If you just keep asking questions, the topic will soon be exhausted, and the girl's favorability towards you will not increase, leaving you with nothing to say.
The so-called question and answer feedback is to expand the topic of the girl’s reply and express her own opinions and feelings. Simple topics are cold, so we need to add emotions to the topics to arouse girls' interest.
Continuous questions
Boys: How old are you
Girls: 21
Boys: Oh, how tall are you
Girls: 162
Boys: Oh, how many people are in your family?
Girls: 3
Boys: Oh, okay
Girls :…
Q&A feedback
Boys: How old are you
Girls: 21
Boys: The right age for falling in love
Girls: Haha, how old are you?
Boys: I am two years older than you, so I can be my little brother
Girls: My little brother is good
Boys: So well-behaved I’ll take you to have a drink with you another day
Girls: Hahahaha
2. Find topics based on relationships
Topics are related to relationship stages because topics have so-called scales. Excessive scale will lead to overstepping and make the other party feel offended. For example, you cannot ask a girl who knows you, "What is your mother's last name?" If the scale is too low, it will appear too raw, which is not conducive to warming up the relationship. For example, you can't say, "Hello, excuse me" to your girlfriend.
You need to adjust the scope and scale of your topics based on the stage of the relationship and the girl’s response. Friends may ask? How can I grasp this scale? The answer is that you need to feel it yourself. Just like walking a tightrope, learning to feel the balance, you need to keep practicing and slowly master this scale.
Stranger stage
In the strange stage, the most important thing is to break the ice first, eliminate the sense of estrangement, let the topic continue, and then show your attraction to make girls interested in you. At this time, you can find topics for chatting from girls first, and then from yourself.
Boys: You will definitely look good with short hair (icebreaker)
Girls: I used toI have short hair
Boys: Short hair is suitable for dating; long hair is suitable for marriage
Girls: Hahaha, I can talk
Boys: Just now After working out, I was dragged to a barbecue by my friends, and it was another day of staying put (showing value)
Girl: Haha, do you usually like sports (generating interest)
The ambiguous stage
Note that we must wait until the girl becomes interested in us before we can heat up the relationship. To warm up the relationship when a girl is not interested is called being a hooligan and will only arouse the girl's resentment. When it comes to finding topics in the ambiguous stage, the most important thing is to look for topics that are conducive to warming up the relationship, such as cooking, dating, role-playing, etc.
Boy: I’ll give it to you, will you hug me from behind?
Girl: Haha, yes
Boy: Will you be shy when I first arrive?
Girls: Yes
Boys: Haha, ugly wives always want to see their husbands, don’t be shy
Girls: You are the ugly one
Boys: My beloved concubine is doing well recently. I came here to inspect your Cining Palace.
Girls: Your Majesty, it’s not easy for you not to go to Concubine Hua
3. Learn divergent thinking
Chatting itself is a kind of social interaction, and social interaction is a very emotional thing. Don't try to be rational. The reason why chatting with young friends is awkward is because they are too rational and serious. Chatting is more like writing prose. It expresses emotions and the topic can spread everywhere.
Boys: You are handsome. What are you doing when you are beautiful?
Girls: Who said you are handsome and shameless?
Boys: You You are scolding me now just because you don’t understand me yet
Girls: Oh, really
Boys: When you get to know me, you will definitely hit me
Girls: I have clenched my fists
Boys: However, the blow was soft on my body
