Nowadays, boys generally chase girls through chatting first, but to put it bluntly, the love that comes out of chatting is not real love. Therefore, it is generally difficult for the relationship that comes out of chatting to last long.
I wonder if any of you who have had online dating experience have such a feeling?
I always feel If the other person is slightly indifferent, we will immediately become sensitive, suspicious, and at a loss what to do. This is because our brains will involuntarily rationalize all the information we receive.
This also means that what makes us feel excited is not the real person of the other person, but the product of secondary processing of imagination.
Moreover, at most only 30% of the person we know through chatting is real, and the rest, whether it is appearance, personality, or character, is actually our subjective creation of "what we want to be." Let the other person become like that."
Therefore, it is usually not recommended for everyone to develop an online relationship for a long time.
Because no matter how speculative your chat is and how right you feel about each other, in fact, to a large extent, "we are all in love with our own fantasies." The other person is just a container. We imagine him to be Your ideal partner, but the reality may be worlds apart.
In other words, it is not this person you like, it could be anyone else. The other person only assumes your longing for love, and what you enjoy is just a virtual pleasure of being satisfied. .
Remember one sentence: Chatting is just a tool for you to know and understand each other, but it must not be the only evidence of love.
Most of the love generated by chatting is short-lived and fragile, and generally does not last long. It is even said that as long as two people have lost contact for more than three days, your original impulse towards that person will immediately disappear. It will be nothing.
Therefore, no matter whether you are a man or a woman, don’t put your fate on an illusory online dating. The return rate is too low and the risk is too high.
Develop more worlds outside of online chatting with each other, and use real life to bring together each other’s unique personal values ??to create attraction, and then break through the ambiguous period and upgrade the relationship. This is often more disgusting than talking on the Internet. are much more practical.
Whether the chat is hot or not is actually not an insignificant value-added item for both sexes. What can truly establish a relationship with each other is the character, values, ideological level, and personal value of both parties.
Generally, the relationships that come out of chatting will not last long. But through the Internet, we attract, understand and tolerate each other in reality, and this creates a relationship.Feelings can only flow slowly and slowly.
