Can good friends develop into lovers- Let's start with friends!



Netizens asked: Can good friends develop into lovers? In my opinion, there is no standard answer to this question. It depends on everyone’s view on the matter. Take me for example. In my opinion, It's totally okay. If two people can't even be friends, then it's even more impossible for them to be lovers, so I think it's okay to be friends first.

From a psychological point of view, "love at first sight" and "falling in love without friends" mostly come from "dopamine impulse" And "Fantasy Script", based on some beautiful misunderstandings or biological attraction, a momentary mood swing will mistakenly believe that one's "love fantasy" can be realized and enter a state of "falling in love with the fantasy", which usually does not last too long. They will become disillusioned, and partners with lower emotional intelligence may even fall into sadomasochism.

And if friends get along with each other more deeply, agree on the three views and stay together for a long time, they are more likely to learn to "love real people" rather than "fantasy people", and they can understand whether they are not in love or not. Although love and relationships do not experience emotional ups and downs, they are peaceful and comfortable and promote physical and mental health.

There are several stages in a relationship: honeymoon stage, disillusionment stage, power struggle stage, demise stage and partnership stage.

The honeymoon period started by two people based on passion and misunderstanding usually quickly becomes disillusioned and difficult to continue. They may even turn against each other because the other party does not meet expectations or is disappointed.

A good relationship requires two people to have a sense of self-growth and integrity of self-personality, mature attachment and companionship in each other's willingness to "cooperate with others", and unconditional acceptance and love. During the partnership period, the relationship enters into physical and mental nourishment, starting a positive cycle.

So good friends can develop into lovers, but there are exceptions. But if two people cannot be friends, it will be difficult for them to fall in love for a long time.


-Communication of Love- is a book about how men can fall in love scientifically