Many boys are wondering why they ignore girls before they have even spoken a few words? Did they say something wrong? In fact, it’s not that you said something wrong, it’s just your Just lack of chat skills. So how to improve your ability to chat with girls?
1. Relaxed and humorous
Humor does not necessarily have to make people laugh. It is also a kind of humor that can pull people out of negative emotions. It’s not that difficult to be humorous, but it’s not something you can learn in a short while, so learn to relax before being humorous.
Only when you relax yourself can you make the other person feel relaxed with you.
For example, if you help a girl fix her computer, she says to you: "Thank you for your hard work."
Don't stupidly say: "It's okay, it's not hard, I can help you very much." Happy."
You said that if you can only be polite like this, when will you be able to get closer?
You can answer: "What's the trouble? If you are really grateful. Just... act like a cow and repay me, or treat me to a cup of milk tea."
Such a small joke will make the chat atmosphere between you very lively.
You know, the more nervous you are and worried about saying the wrong thing, the more reserved a girl will feel and feel unnatural and uncomfortable getting along with you.
So adjust your mentality and travel lightly, and the distance between you will gradually become closer.
2. Know how to advance and retreat
Appropriate care will make girls feel like a spring breeze. If it is too intensive, it may It's a tornado. So sometimes the other party may give a subtle hint.
For example, if a girl says she is busy with work, she may be really busy, or she may not want to chat with you for the time being.
But no matter what the reason is, don’t dwell on it any longer. All you need to do is say, “If you need help, you can always come to me.”
At this time, you have to retreat when you need to. Don’t make mindless remarks with low emotional intelligence such as “Have you taken a shower?” “Have you finished eating?”
Of course, it doesn’t mean that we can only wait passively. We still have to enter when it’s time to enter.
For example, take the initiative to share with the other party the interesting things you have encountered recently, where you went, where the restaurants are good, how beautiful the scenery is...
These have content Chatting can not only show your high value, let her know about your life dynamics, but also easily create topics, which is many times more nutritious than the daily punch-in good morning and good night.
And if the other party takes the initiative to share her life with you, then of course you must seize the opportunity. At this time, the point we are going to talk about next is very important.
3. Let the girl feel that you understand her very well
If the girl has a good impression of you before and picks you up more actively , and if she takes the initiative to share her life with you, then you must seize the opportunity to make her feel that you understand her very well. This is what we call empathy.
For example, a girl complains to you: "I am so unlucky today. I was only 4 minutes late due to traffic jam, and the supervisor fined me 100 yuan. I am so angry."
If you are casual Giving a "suggestion that everyone knows" will kill the topic in minutes.
When a girl shares her mood and state with you, what she actually wants in her heart is your comfort. This is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to advance your relationship.
So what you have to do is to be on the same wavelength as her emotions: "Your supervisor is too cruel, deducting so many. I feel sorry for you."
Generally speaking, When a girl hears what you say, she will feel much better, and the resentment in her heart will be relieved a lot because of your empathy and understanding.
