When chatting with a girl you like for the first time, if you really don’t know how to start the first topic other than “Are you here?” “What are you doing?” “Have you eaten?” It will be difficult to give a girl a good first impression. So how should you start the conversation when chatting with a girl you like for the first time?
If you really don’t know what to talk about, you can start with the simplest topics, based on girls’ updates, Weibo, NetEase Cloud Wait for various channels, add your own ideas appropriately, and draw out topics that the other party is interested in.
①"Hi~Jay Chou's little fan girl" "How do you know?"
"Because when I browsed NetEase Cloud yesterday, I happened to see your favorite playlist, haha ~"
②"I want to raise a cat recently, and I want to ask you some questions." "How did you know that I have a cat?"
"Because I saw your circle of friends. Taking a selfie, accidentally revealing a cat litter box~”
③“Hi~ I haven’t seen you post food tips on Xiaohongshu for a long time.”
It started like this. Without any aggression, simple and clear, the other party will not be wary of you as soon as you come up;
Moreover, starting simply is also a kind of test. If the girl’s response is perfunctory or even not at all If she doesn't reply to you, then it is very likely that "although she is single, she is either secretly in love with a boy or has just ended a relationship." Then it is not convenient to continue the in-depth conversation at this time. You should give in in time to avoid letting the other party Bored.
If her reply is very enthusiastic and she has a high urge to chat with you, then it proves that "at least she is not annoying." You, there is a high chance of a relationship between you. "
The opening remarks are complete. Even if the girl does not object to chatting with you, she will still be estranged and resisted.
The reason is very simple. Although you are polite to you on the surface, you are still a "stranger" or "someone of the opposite sex with a slight liking" in the hearts of girls, and girls will instinctively keep a distance from you. In order to maintain his reserved image.
Therefore, the best way to eliminate the gap between girls is to "have a little mystery in humor".
①“The traffic in Beijing is very good recently, and the traffic jam is not long, that is, from six o’clock in the morning to twelve o’clock in the evening.”
②“I found that I The main major of the graduate school is to help the tutor take care of the children. No, I haven’t finished writing the thesis, and the tutor asked me to help her pick up the children from school~”
③“I am really Mercury retrograde today. I don’t know who parked the car at the door of my garage again!”
These seemingly humorous jokes are actually related to your personal studies, career, and family conditions.What girls receive is not just a simple topic, but more curiosity about you: "What kind of person are you/what do you do/what is your attitude towards life."
When a girl becomes curious about your world and arouses her urge to get to know you, your relationship will naturally heat up.
At the same time, one thing should be made clear: Humor is okay, but you must pay attention to propriety and do not make fun of the other person's shortcomings, otherwise it will easily make girls become hostile to you.
Finally, you should always remind yourself: correct your identity and maintain social standards.
