There is a big difference in the thinking of men and women. The reason why many boys are regarded as straight men by girls when chatting is because they do not understand girls’ thinking. So how should straight men change the way they speak?

1. Grasp keywords

Scope of application: most girls

Grasp In short, keywords are to find out the keywords in a girl's words when chatting with her, and then extend and supplement them. Using this method, you can follow the girl's thinking and change your straight thinking.

After all, the keywords mentioned by the girl must be of interest to her. If she continues to expand, she will definitely find the topic she is interested in. Moreover, this method can also make the girl feel that the topic connection is natural. She It's easy to follow what you said.

　For example:

　"Just woke up"

　Reply:

　?I am often like you, staying up late It's very satisfying to wake up very late and then sleep in very late.

?Of course you have to sleep in on the big weekend, I do the same, and then go to the gym.

　“I think the Hangzhou cuisine I ate tonight is very light”

　Reply

　?Girls generally like light food, but in fact there are many other cuisines They all tend to be on the list, like Cantonese and Shanghainese dishes. Let’s try them together next time we have a chance.

2. Sharing scene

Scope of application: more lively and curious girls

Sharing scenes is a common chat technique. To put it simply, take a photo for her, add some simple descriptions of yourself, and then start to extend the topic.

Girls are very curious, especially those who are lively. They are more likely to have questions and become curious about your activities, especially some special and interesting things.

By sharing your story and status with her, you can not only show your value, but also avoid being regarded as a straight man and chatting more with girls.

For example:

A photo of you at work or a document on your desk + I am so busy today that I almost have to talk to you

( The implicit communication of this sentence is): busy at work + but I will still remember you

A photo of eating in a restaurant + the food here is really good, the decoration is very special, it is worthy of being an Internet celebrity store, and the queue is worth it . I’ll bring you here next time

(The topics you can expand include: good food + beautiful decoration + queues + vague invitations)

A pet photo + Hi! I’m here for my cat The cat says hello to you!

This sentence can be expanded: pets + boys who keep pets + exhibitionsShow your love)

3. Cold reading

Scope of application: relatively aloof girls

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The cold reading method is actually a mixture of the above two methods, and then explores the inner world of the girl, which is a higher level of communication.

For cold girls, few people can understand her inner world, but precisely because few people understand their thoughts, they are even more eager for someone to enter their hearts.

For example:

Male: "Ah, you are XXX zodiac sign, so you are that kind of girl!"

Female: "Where? Kind of?"

Male: "Girls with XX signs generally seem to be more independent, but sometimes they also want to be cared for by others. Occasionally they are very outgoing and have a few close friends, but they calm down. Sometimes, they will still be cautious and make their own decisions, and will not easily follow others' opinions, but they hope that others will recognize and affirm them

If it is right, you can say "Of course, XX signs and I are very close" It's fate. Did I guess all your little thoughts correctly?"

If you guess wrong, it doesn't matter at all. You can say, "Then you are very special. You are a girl with a story."

When using cold reading, be sure to think of a way to get the best of both worlds in advance so that everything seems natural and not awkward, and then you can slowly move through these more in-depth topics. Slowly reveal a girl’s inner world and her story.

There are many techniques for chatting with girls. The three techniques I bring to you today are the easiest to learn and the most practical, as long as they are reasonable. By using it, you will definitely be able to say goodbye to the label of straight men