What should I do if I can’t chat? I think this is a common problem that most friends have. It also directly leads to many people not being able to find girlfriends. So after analyzing it this way, it is indeed a very serious problem. So today the editor has brought you some chatting skills with high emotional intelligence. If you don’t know how to chat yet, please take a look.

1. When you meet someone who asks about your privacy in public, you don’t want to lie but you don’t want to answer either. At this time, you can Choose rhetorical question.

For example, if the other party asks you, have you found a partner?

You can ask him back, what do you think?

If he continues to say, I think you have. ah.

No matter what the facts are, you can answer him. You can retain your own opinions and then not comment. If he were more sensible, he wouldn't ask any more questions.

2. If you want the other party to agree to your request, you can try to get the other party to reject you first.

The other person will feel guilty because they have already rejected you once.

For example, if you write a copy, you also hope that your colleagues can help you with some revision suggestions.

You can say, I wrote a copy, can you help me revise it?

Then the other party will most likely reject you.

Then if you mention it again, how about you help me take a look and give me some opinions, and I will think about it myself.

He will easily give you suggestions for revision.

3. When a friend complains to you, it is more important to acknowledge the emotion than to analyze the facts.

When a person complains or complains to you, what he hopes to get is understanding rather than advice.

When he doesn’t ask you specifically what to do, you might as well make some expressions that acknowledge his emotions.

For example, this matter is really difficult. If it were me, I would definitely be unhappy.

After he feels recognized, the troublesome emotions will disappear, and it will not be too late to help analyze and propose solutions.

4. When you don’t completely agree with the other person’s ideas, you can first agree with them and then put forward additional opinions.

For example, I think your idea is interesting, or I have never thought of your idea.

But I can add some of my opinions, so that the other party will be more likely to accept your suggestions.

Therefore, questions and answers with high emotional intelligence are not actually catering to others, but working together to solve problems faced in the communication process. Have you learned it?